Another day, another post about what is really the only hiccup in what would be my otherwise near perfect existence.Went to court today to file 'Jackass's' reply to my application for an increase to his child support payments. I get to the counter, hand in these forms, the clerk stamps the copies "Reply To Counterclaim", hands me a copy to mail to Jackass, and tells me that I'll have to wait for a court date by mail.
Mail?? My lawyer told me that they could give me a court date right there. So I ask, "Is it possible for me to get a court date today, so that I can call my lawyer and check her schedule?"
The clerk looks at me, and says, "I suppose we could do it that way if that's what you want..."
Are you kidding me? Who determines just how this system should work? Who the hell sits up in his big chair, and says, "Let's make this process as assinine and illogical as we possibly can! Let's make it so that mothers who come to court seeking a decision regarding receiving the CORRECT child support from dbd's (dead beat dads), want to throw up their hands and run out screaming!" Who does that?! (If it's your job to sit up in your big chair and make that idiot decision, I wanna have a word with you.)
Why couldn't that idiot woman have given me the option of getting the court date today in the first place?? Who the hell wants to wait for a court date by mail?
I learned long ago, that this process takes time...lots and lots of time. Today, this woman has me convinced that they take the 2% of the population with the lowest IQ, and make them court clerks.
A little common sense in the system. Is this really too much to ask?
Thanks for reading.
posted by Life After Divorce at 7:04 PM
7 Comments:
wow, you're beginning to sound like JQ75!
The entire divorce process just stinks - it robs the good out of anyone.
And who is JQ75 you might ask. Someone who knows the domestic relations system is a total disaster for both genders. Sorry the system is abusing you too, but it’s no surprise, it is an equal opportunity abuser.
Your husband might be a cheapskate, but I’m not. Since the beginning of my divorce I’ve been labeled a deadbeat dad even though I’ve always provided well for my son. My wife’s lawyer has worked the system to keep me labeled as a deadbeat even though I’ve had as much as 2 years support in escrow. So for that reason I consider the phrase “dbd” a Slur.
The whole system is a self-serving game, and we usually don’t know the rules. If you think about it from the participant’s point of view it makes perfect sense. But of course you have to ignore all the deceptive rhetoric about best interest of the child. They do not exist to serve anyone or solve any problems.
Oh and on the subject of common sense, first it’s kind of uncommon these days, and second, within the court system “game” you can pretty well expect the opposite of “common sense”.
Good luck finding “justice” in this Domestic Relations Disaster.
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Opps, let me rephrase that. I guess you know who I am already. My plan B is going well, it's been very intense, hence my mind fog in not remembering you've already seen my Blog.
The second opps is Blogger's fault for hosing up an embedded HTML tag.
I use Firefox, so right clicking and opening in new tabs is kind of a common habit for me. So I’ve seen many of your alert boxes. Not a big deal, I also use the Tab Clicking Options extension too, so I can do it that way.
I’m using a similar template, but I would sometimes miss links because they looked so much like the body. I replaced the CSS code after the body with the following:
a:link {
color:#c00;
text-decoration:underline;
}
a:visited {
color:#00c;
text-decoration:none;
}
a:hover {
color:#c60;
text-decoration:underline;
}
a img {
border-width:0;
}
This allows links to be more easily noticed if you haven’t visited them yet (with the underline), once visited they are less noticeable.
You can try out the effect by visiting some links on my site and then reloading the page.
If you like the idea, feel free to use it or adapt it, it’s kind of a simple change.
Maybe it's my old eyes, but can you see the three embedded links on my first comment and the one embedded link on my previous comment?
I also would post embeded links on my Blog and then people would ask me questions that showed they didn't notice the link I had provided.
It's the one annoyanance I have with this template.
Or it could just be my eyes...
Take care...
Wow! Sorry JQ75 about your situation, you don't sound like the "typical" dbd.
My ex also says that he provides for our children, though he hasn't paid support in the last 5 months. If he had any support in escrow, I'd pass out.
We're going to court on January 23/07. There are a lot of things that he thinks that I don't know about his financial situation, that I'll be bringing with me. He drives a $115,000 Range Rover, and says that he can't afford to have his support (for 3 children) increased from $1910 per month to $2271 per month. He lives in a 2.5 million dollar penthouse, and says that he can't afford to have his child support increased.
So you see, my ex is busy 'playing the game.' But now that I've gotten a good grasp of the rules, I know just how to bend them.
Wish me luck! Good luck with 'the game', and thanks so much for your comments.
M.
I certainly will wish you luck on the 23rd. The system is so flakey, you need it.
I'll be in court on Jan 18th. I have some postings on whats up and I'll have more on what happened this weekend.
Good Luck !
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